I've come to the conclusion that the KonMari method is the only self-improvement program you'll ever need. How can I make such a claim? Well I've been helping people get tidy since 2005 and for me myself it's the only method I've found that actually forces you to face yourself and make life changes that completely shift the energy in not only your home but in your every day life which includes your habits and the way you think about yourself.
It's a simple method of tidying and is broken down into 5 categories: Clothes, Books, Paper, Komono (miscellaneous ) and Memorabilia. You must follow these 5 categories because it really is a method and if you scramble it then that's exactly how you'll feel. Scrambled. And you'll be prone to rebounding back to your old ways of untidiness.
My client "M" in the above photo was terrified of tidying clothes and even teared up in our consultation when we spoke about it but she knew she needed to do it. On the day of our first tidying lesson she was more than eager to take everything out and place it on her bed. She joyfully discarded items she no longer loved and made sure to try things on that were in the "maybe" pile. At the end of our lesson she was left with a closet that sparked joy! "I love opening my closet. I sit and stare at how beautiful it is and I love getting dressed in the morning," she reported to me.
Clients that I've helped in the past that didn't follow the KonMari Method almost always fell back into their old ways of a clutter-filled home. The reason for this? They were more focused on what they wanted to get rid of as opposed to what they wanted to keep. In my perspective, whatever side you focus on when you're tidying is the side that will manifest in your home. This is why Marie Kondo also wrote the book "Spark Joy". You must focus on what you want. As a result, you will manifest more of what Sparks Joy by doing just this very thing.
For me personally, I had to tidy my entire home before applying to be a KonMari consultant and I will confidently say that it is life-changing magic. I was a very untidy teen and I didn't do well in school at all. I had no drive, no ambition and no idea how to remedy it. I was also very lost and somewhat depressed and just couldn't find my place in the world. I was an only child and I had way too much stuff but I never realized any of it was connected or that all my parts affected each other. I tried shopping for new clothes thinking that would help fix the problem but I always felt worse afterwards. Now, after tidying my own home, I am excited to put things away because I know everything I own has a place. I also have more mental clarity and my goals and dreams seem much more attainable. Just by tidying I've cleared so much mental clutter that my home will never go back to being untidy again because by being tidy I have the freedom to live my life the way I've always wanted.
I'm certainly not a doctor and if you're suffering from severe depression or any psychological disorder I'm not suggesting that this will be a cure for your situation. Tidying your home allows you to let go of the past and focus on the present so that you can start manifesting the future life that you want for yourself. And like Marie says, "try it for yourself and find out." New clients that want to get tidy but haven't heard of the KonMari Method, I let them know that this is the only method that I practice and 9 times out of 10 it inspires them to read the book and to hire me.
If you haven't read the book I strongly recommend that you do. Marie Kondo has turned tidying into a science and the equation is you plus your belongings equals the level of joy you experience in your life. You will face moments that make your stomach turn and you'll feel helpless and like quitting. It'll seem hopeless and too difficult. So just start with your clothes first and see what happens to your life afterwards. Most of my clients get the "tidying virus" as I like to call it and they can't stop once they've started. So please know that the KonMari journey won't be easy but it will be worth it.
The photos below are of M's closet and accessory drawer after we finished tidying.
This new client hired us to organize the garage as a surprise for her hubby for Father's Day. What a great gift for the garage dweller in your life. This space is usually a catch all for the things we don't have homes for and for things that we might use less on a day to day basis. Typically when I encounter a garage, there is usually every tidying category in this one space. Blenders, pots and pans, clothes, paperwork and many other random items that also seem to lack in the Spark Joy category. This is why it is important to follow the categories listed in Marie Kondo's book "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up" and gather all items from every room in your home for each category. Otherwise, you will be left with many piles that will sit until you tend to them.
Garages can be the least favorite project to tidy but I love them. Pulling everything out and getting rid of all the cob webs and dirt invokes a very gratifying feeling. What was once a dreaded space to enter and even think about then becomes a place you treasure. Marie says, "tidying forces you to confront yourself while cleaning forces you to confront nature." We definitely accomplished both during this session and the client was completely transformed when we finished up. It isn't a science I can prove on paper but after watching my clients go through these sessions, there is a major visible change in their presence. Kudos to my teammate, Takara, for she is deathly afraid of spiders and I think we had cob webs in our hair when we left.
Something I learned from my own dad, hard work pays off and being disciplined feels really good. The most important thing is to always keep your goals in the big picture. This will allow you to see your hurdles or obstacles as necessary steps to getting you closer to who and where you want to be. Then when you step back, you can be proud of your accomplishments and you will know that the sweat and dirt were the means for that accomplishment and your job or chore truly becomes your reward! Oh and my dad never sat me down and told me these things, I learned them by watching him. I love you dad!!
The photo below is what our client left on her hubby's workbench, a six pack of beer and a card. Thanks, K!
What better way is there to begin a new life with someone than to tidy your belongings ensuring you both "fit" together? Our new client, M, loves her shoes.....a lot!! And her jeans and her dresses and her leggings and her shoes and workout tee's and her shoes and her.......everything. This lovely business owner will soon be saying "I do" down south in Mexico and we wanted to make sure she felt settled and ready to be a newly-wed when she returns from her trip. She and her fiancé have a house in the mountains for the winter and a posh condo in the city for the summer and M doesn't like to schlepp her belongings back and forth and we don't blame her! The only request by D, her fiancé, was that he didn't lose any of his space in the closet. Keeping this in mind, we had a bit of work to do!
The KonMari Method tidying lesson #1 is clothes, so I urged M to pick only the items that spark joy. As I pulled all the shoes off the shelves she quickly selected several pairs to discard which lacked any spark at all and the pairs she kept, you couldn't mistake the sparkle in her eyes for anything other than absolute joy. She did the same with several tops and bottoms and when she opened the dresser drawers to see her newly folded jeans and workout clothes, she squealed with joy! M showed D and he was happy that she was happy! This method of tidying will change your entire life! We categorized and neatly folded all of her clothes so that they would fit comfortably in their newly designated space and at the end of our session everything fit perfectly. M said, "I'm moved in!" All of her belongings now have a spot and everything is visible so nothing will be forgotten. D was even given an extra shelf on his side of the closet, woot woot!! ;)
She was very proud of herself for discarding several items and as we were leaving, D was placing a dozen pink roses in a vase and she was getting ready to pack for her NOLA bachelorette party. Congratulations, M & D, we can already see you will have a life filled of much joy-sparking together!!
Where would we be without our mothers? One of the happiest times I can remember as a child with my mom is spending Saturday mornings organizing my room. It's when I discovered my gift. I wouldn't actually realize it for another 20 years but I definitely remember those mornings pulling everything apart and putting it back together in a newly arranged way and the feeling of newness, as if I could be a whole new me. Moving my things around and giving them a new home seemed to give my room new life and energy and it definitely inspired my creativity and gave me a new perspective on my world. Today, I still do the same thing. I think I've rearranged my closet half a dozen times, my cowboy boots that have turquoise leather and flying sparrows on them are now displayed on the top shelf instead of being stored away in their box. I've let go of all the shoes I used to wear to my office job along with all my office clothes. Now when I open my closet, I feel the newness and the possibility of a new me. I love you, Mom, and thanks for teaching me why tidying feels so good!
I'm realizing more and more why it's so important to monitor my thoughts. When I don't, I just create the same things over and over. I had the idea for a dream board 4 years ago and I started it but didn't finish. This time around I wanted to love it, so I went to a few stores and decided I would only buy the things that sparked joy and I would only choose images that spoke to my heart.
I have a few goals that I'm trying to attain and so I thought I would find images that represented them and one of them is yoga. Lately I've been seeing these images in my mind of doing yoga poses and they come out of no where. I'll be sitting at a traffic light and all of a sudden I'll have a vision of myself in the lord of the dance pose. I know, weird. So I decided to start doing it in my living room and the feeling it gives my body can only be described as love which I guess must be endorphins...I'm not sure. I love how it makes me feel, so peaceful and calm. I will keep doing it and hope to eventually master it. Another goal I set for myself is self-love. Yes, it sounds cliché but when I listen to my thoughts, I can be very hard on myself most of the time which causes my shoulders to practically touch my ears. Another goal I have is to start running again. I actually had a dream last night that I was running and doing 10 minute miles. Next on my board, there is a circle-shaped image of a man and a woman laying in hammocks above a body of water. This is my goal for a relationship, easy, loving and adventurous. I also love to paint and want to master that as well so I chose a photo of Van Gogh to represent this goal. I actually painted the other day for the first time in months and I'm very happy with the result.
Self realization is a goal because I'm constantly yearning to find out who I am and what my life is for so I put it at the very top because it's the most important to me. I also included a map of the world and marked all of the places I'd love to travel to not just for leisure but to teach the benefits of tidying as well (getting my passport might help). I chose the word MASTERFUL because it describes my intention for everything I do. I want to master it, no matter what it is. I put 3 of my business cards to remind myself why I love tidying and helping others achieve their goals through tidying. I chose 2 fortunes my son and I found one night after having dinner at our favorite Thai restaurant. The first one says, "A dream will always triumph over reality, when it is given a chance." The second one says, "Make your life an exclamation not and explanation." These came at a very appropriate time and I am listening to their wisdom. I chose a turquoise vase full of pink peonies because both the colors and the flowers are my favorite and they spark much joy when I look at them. I included a drawing that my oldest son did for me. One night after Easter he left little drawings for me all over the house as if they were Easter eggs. They all had loving messages and pictures and I chose the heart he drew that says "best mom". Being a mother is a constant challenge and I need many reminders that I'm doing my best. The last image I chose was of a photo of a chair that sparks joy in a living room that I love, but more importantly there is a picture on the wall of an Audrey Hepburn quote. "She said, I believe in pink. I believe that laughing is the best calorie burner. I believe in kissing, kissing a lot. I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong. I believe the happy girls are the prettiest girls. I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles." All of these statements spark joy and I love re-reading them, it's become my mantra.
A dream board will help you to remember why you have begun your tidying journey and when it gets tough and you feel like you can't keep going, your dream board will remind you why you can.
It's been 2 months since my last blog entry. I don't understand why time is flying by so quickly. I almost feel like I'm being robbed of my memory. My oldest is 10 and my youngest is 6 and no matter how hard I wish for things to slow down, they won't. Does anyone else feel this way?
I'm sitting in my living room reading Spark Joy which is the follow-up to Marie Kondo's first best selling book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. If you haven't read it, might I suggest that you do. It's a refresher-course on tidying and it solidifies all the important reasons why it's necessary to get your living space in order. Some of you may have already started the tidying process (did you know she has an app that helps you tidy?) and some of you may have never heard of this book. I'm an advocate of the KonMari Method simply because she requires that before I can receive my certification to being a KonMari tidying specialist, I must first tidy all my belongings. That means walk my talk, practice what I preach, buy what I'm selling. It's genius. I've always felt this way about any profession. You must say what you mean and mean what you say. Otherwise it would be like hiring a dead doctor, paying for a life coach that has a drug or sex addiction, or donating money to a charity that pockets the profit. How does she verify if we are tidy? We must submit before and after photos of each category and if you know about her method you cannot fake it.
Now I'm posing a simple question, does your life spark joy? Maybe you don't equate your living space directly to your level of happiness but I'm here to tell you they are woven as tightly as two hands clasped together and are mirror images of each other. You cannot have one without the other. I've had clients look at me like I'm nuts when I tell them that tidying their closet will change their life. I've actually had some clients roll their eyes when I ask them "does this spark joy?" We aren't taught to be intuitive. We're taught to rely on external data. I believe we are inherently intuitive beings and when you listen to your gut you make the best life decisions specifically tailored to you. Oh and by the way, those clients that rolled their eyes, I rephrased the words and said, "do you like this, does this make you happy, can you see yourself using this ever again?" and then they were on board.
After my 3 day training with Marie Kondo's team and embarking upon my certification I've come to a realization and it's something I originally posted on the very first version of my website about 3 years ago, long before I had ever heard of the KonMari Method.
It's very simple.....you must first envision the life you want to live or rather view from the end of your set goal.
Whether it be a photo on your bedroom wall, cut-outs on a poster board in the kitchen, a Pinterest page or even inspiring words written on a sticky note stuck to the dashboard of your car, we must have a tangible object that keeps us on track. Why do we do this? Because we must be able to see the finish line. We are all running a race and without a well-intentioned ending point we are merely floating along with no direction, rarely making progress, leaving our goals unmet. In sports, earning a college degree, child rearing, going to work, you have a deadline or and ending point. The quarterback sees the end zone, the working professional knows the date the project is due, the student counts the credit hours and days needed for graduation, the parent realizes they are raising an adult. All of life demands beginnings and endings...constantly.
Tidying your life calls for these same beginning and ending marks. But more importantly, without the vision of crossing over the finish line, starting the race holds no meaning. Have you ever heard someone say "I'm really good at starting things but I'm terrible at finishing them." It's because they failed to envision the end at the beginning. You can also call this setting a goal for yourself and once again, without the benchmark the goal is useless. I'm determined to lose 10 lbs and every day I wake up I envision what it looks like and feels like to be 10 lbs lighter and I'm getting closer to my goal simply by envisioning the end result. I have another goal of spending more quality time with my kids and before they come home I envision what we will do together that evening whether it be to put on a puppet show, bake cookies or paint and draw together. When I fail to do this, our evening tends to be a bit chaotic. I have also set a new business goal and it's to create a new blog entry once a month. I'm in the process of writing a book and these blog entries will allow me to develop more content for it. So I guess the blog is the starting point and the book is the end goal. Right now, my goal is to tidy kitchen and laundry room.
If you're terrible at finishing projects, if you find yourself in a living space full of clutter, if you have a job that you hate or if there is one little thing you wish you could change about yourself close your eyes right now and envision the life you want. Next, put it out there, on paper, on your phone, on a sticky note and lastly, aim. Let's get out from under the clutter and start living!
The photo is of my first marketing product. A year or so ago I knew I wanted something tangible to give to people other than a business card. I was visiting my mom in AZ and she had a lip balm that had a business advertisement on it. I loved the ingredients so I called the manufacturing company and I now have 500 of them in a box in my office ready to give to new clients.
thanks for reading and keep it tidy!
"Dear, Tidy......I love you!"
How does one write a book about themselves? What determines if my words are worth reading? Who am I to write down anything that anyone would ever take the time to read what I have to say? These thoughts have been swimming around in my mind for years now and I haven't the slightest idea how one begins to write a book. I guess I could begin with an alliteration...
Today I must tidy, for too many a thing 'tis the reason for toxic waste in thought and tendency. Trash, turbulence and being too tired is the traffic that threatens and tears at my teacup filled with teeth and thunder. The topics in this thorough and thoughtful thread will be all about taking out the trash and transforming your (my) tracks. Tip top. Spit spot. Let's get tidy.
Phew…. that was really fun. It's like painting with words.
Today is Monday, November, 14th 2016, I'm about to be 40 years old in about 2 weeks and the country in which I live is treading in a tone of dissonance. I won't mention any names or point any fingers but many people are in total shock and I won't lie, I was too until I realized what it's all for.
The last 8 years for me personally has been a period of much growth. I remember on that very night in November of ‘08 I felt the magic.
"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
"The future rewards those who press on. I don't have time to feel sorry for myself. I don't have time to complain. I'm going to press on.”
“We, The People, recognize that we have responsibilities as well as rights; that our destinies are bound together; that a freedom which only asks what's in it for me, a freedom without a commitment to others, a freedom without love or charity or duty or patriotism, is unworthy of our founding ideals, and those who died in their defense.”
I could list them all and if you must remove the author’s name, there is an undeniable mystical divinity in every line. He spoke about change and personal responsibility and while he had incurred many protesters and disbelievers I realized his message was for me.
For most of my life I have lived in fear. Fear of others thoughts of me, fear of the world, fear of the unknown and the fear to make a decision without any doubt. I was tired of this fear and his words evoked a power and strength in me that could no longer be held back. His words still bring tears to my eyes and I might not ever fully understand why.
Okay… if you're still reading, that means you haven't dismissed me based on my political views. If you're on the fence, let me assure you I know nothing about politics but I do know the power of words. (And just a little side note-- This isn't a going to be a book about politics or religion. It's the background of my story which is what I've been told to do to keep you interested.)
Obama's inspiring words and first-time-buyer’s program allowed me to build up the courage to buy my first home. In April of 2009 my son Julien was 2 1/2 years old and being a single mom and working a 9-5 went together like oil and water. I was too tired to play with my boy because doing chores in the evenings and on weekends took up most of our time. We lived in my mother's townhouse which was a 3-level, 3 bed 3 bath too-much-space-to-clean-and-keep-tidy home. I also wasn't able to afford the mortgage and I wanted something that was all mine. Something I had manifested from my heart.
I hired a realtor and after several weeks of showings and not knowing what I wanted or where I wanted to live, she was downright frustrated with me and I think on our last venture she actually had a margarita in her water bottle. I guess I'm not the average buyer. It has to fit the budget which was teeny tiny, the location has to inspire me and I must feel it in my bones. So needless to say, I got in my car and started driving.
I'd looked on-line for weeks and weeks. When I found one I liked it either needed too much work or it was in a bad location. On the last day of my search I had written down several addresses on a piece of scratch paper. I left work on my lunch break and drove from one for-sale sign to the next. Nothing spoke to me. I felt lost. Renting in Denver at that time was the same price as a mortgage and it seemed more practical to buy.
It was the end of the day, the sun was setting and the road I was on curved around a cute little greenbelt. The thoughts in my mind were filled with doubt thinking that I had to rush to the daycare with nothing to show for the miles I had driven. All of a sudden I saw it. It kind of felt like that one song from your childhood that you hear as an adult comes on the radio and you are immediately transformed back into your child-like self. It felt like my heart was driving the car and carrying me forward towards this tiny little cottage from the 1950's and all I can tell you is that everything felt like it was drenched in a love bath. I saw the garden I would plant, the tire swing that would hang from the large oak in the back yard and the walks to the park after dinner with my sweet Julien. The sunsets in Colorado are like no other. Pinks, oranges, blues, lavenders and yellows, like the way a poem is written I was perfectly placed in front of what was soon to be my very own house of 685 square feet but this one wasn't on my list. I knew nothing about it but I felt it in every part of my being. Like my first love had found me....
Hello my neat and tidy readers!
I just spent 3 days in San Francisco for the KonMari consultant training and it was absolutely amazing. I met women from all over the country and from outside of the US that have been inspired by this Japanese style of organizing and it was wonderful to see all the different types of people that are inspired by this book. If you are wanting to get your home or office organized but you don't have the budget for it, then I highly recommend reading it. Marie Kondo walks you through the process step by step and she also tells you why you must follow her method if you want your life to spark joy. I'm not fully certified yet but I hope to be very soon!
Hello, my neat and tidy readers!
Today's blog is about being grateful. Have you ever noticed how being grateful can change your attitude in a millisecond? I'm not going to make this a long post, short and sweet will do just fine. I think the universe knew I needed a tiny break but my mind had a mini freak-out. Business has been a bit (very) slow and I started to panic. At the same time I had to deal with some unpleasantries I won't mention, took a trip to San Francisco to meet Marie Kondo for her 3 day consultant training, my youngest started kindergarten and my oldest son broke his wrist riding his scooter at the skate park. Honestly, there are so many more things I could mention but I promised to keep it short and sweet.
Let's just say this business roller coaster can get some good air and and also fall in an instant. It's the end of August and in just this past week we signed up 6 new clients. People are coming out of the wood work to hire us to help them for everything you can imagine. Paper sorting, garage tidying, back to school prep and a whole home purge and organization and I'm grateful for them all and each one of them has been so grateful for me and my team in return.
My team is the best! I'm not kidding. Two of the girls stayed 5 hours longer than scheduled last night and on a Sunday no less to help our client get ready for a move to Detroit. We also helped a mom organize her two daughter's closets and we helped another client sort her office paperwork and that was just this past weekend.
We've had fun. We've laughed. We've bonded. I'm the luckiest girl in the world to have each and every one of them. The team meeting is this Wednesday night and I will be sure to let them know how much I appreciate their efforts. I would be no where without them. It's true, I hired them because tidying alone can be slow and lonely and chit chatting while you work makes things so much fun! They bring so much more joy to tidying than I ever could've imagined and they teach me something new every time we work together.
The above photo is a Facebook conversation I had with a new client who hired us to help her organize her closet. She's struggling with health issues on top of being a mom, an educator all while getting her PhD and she just hasn't had the time or energy to stay on top of it all. We really enjoyed her sweet little girls and their warm greetings. We've been back a second time and she has sent so many messages telling us how wonderful we are. We even had a new client tell us we didn't charge enough and so she paid us double my hourly rate.
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
Today's blog is inspired by this day of our Independence. Freedom has been on my mind for quite some time and I've been haggling over how to write on this very subject. (It's actually now August as I sit and finish this blog) The clients I've met lately have expressed this same desire for freedom. Freedom from their possessions, freedom from their clutter and freedom from their present state of consciousness which is a general feeling of a lack of inspiration.
Some people "just aren't good at organizing". I've been an organizer for over ten years and most of the clients I've encountered have said these very words. These are people that have gone through physical or emotional trauma, people who weren't raised in an organized environment and people that just seem to be too busy.
The answer to their dilemma is that they just have too much stuff!
It isn't rocket science. We all learned in kindergarten how to put together a puzzle and how to color inside the lines. So when they say they can't put things back where they found them it's because there are too many items in their home to manage and none of their items have the proper home to being with. I hate to say it but it doesn't have to be material items that make you feel cluttered.
It can also be emotional clutter as well.
When you walk into your home your mind should feel at peace and you should be able to face your closet or garage without wanting to close your eyes wishing you were somewhere else. I've observed my clients over the years and people can hoard their past along with present material items. They may even go hand in hand.
Did you ever think you could be a hoarder without looking like one?
Mental clutter is real and if we aren't able to face it, we typically buy more stuff to keep the mental stuff stuffed away deep in our minds where we think it will never rise to the surface. But it eventually returns in some way or another and then you find yourself hiring someone like me to help you purge all of the items you no longer want or need.
I know. Madness.
It's so important to be mindful of your habits and tendencies. My tendencies are to ignore issues until they turn into huge problems. When they become huge problems, I look back and realize had I just addressed the issue from the beginning then I probably wouldn't be paying double for that stinkin' parking ticket.
Some people do this with their job, money and relationships. Then we think if we fill our homes up with stuff we will be happy and feel confident. Nope. The problems you aren't addressing are still there and now they are buried under credit card debt and a closet full of clothes that you couldn't care less to wear.
Yep. You guessed it. We have to deal with ourselves.
Why do we run? Why do we ignore it? Why do we procrastinate? When did we learn these habits? And most importantly how do we change?
Well I can't speak for you and the only reason I can write about these issues is because I've been there myself and have witnessed it with my clients. I was an un-tidy teen and young adult. I was an emotional wreck in college not knowing who I wanted to be or what inspired me the most. I tried fitting into the world and the more I tried the more I failed. All the while accumulating possessions, hoping it would fill the empty spot inside of me. My issues festered and grew until I couldn't stand the sight of myself any longer. Maybe my story is a little more dramatic than yours but I'm sure you can relate on some level.
Then one day, I looked around my apartment and realized I wasn't free to live my life. I was a slave to my possessions and my outer life was a direct reflection of my inner unhappiness. So I decided to get rid of everything I didn't love... oh and I found a new apartment 1/4 the size of what I was used to so I made it a point to keep only the things that would fit into my new space. It was a basement apartment in Cheeseman Park and back then in 2003 my rent was $350/month for a 400 sq. ft. studio. Today it would probably cost $900/month. Then I moved again and purged again. And Moved again and purged again. It seemed so necessary to "move" through this mental and physical clutter and where I ended up was with a dream to start my own business and in the cutest apartment ever where I was free to be spontaneous and live my inspired life. I sold my car and I sold my paintings to pay the rent. To make a long story short, I had to deal with me and my clutter before I could become who I had always wanted to be. And to get there I literally had to get rid of almost everything. No, I'm not perfect and thank god for that. Yes, I still go back to the drawing board to re-create certain areas of my life. But had I stayed the old me with all my clutter not addressing my mental obstacles, living in a space that didn't inspire me I'd never be where I am today.
So are your personal belongings and living space a direct reflection of your dreams and desires and most importantly your ability to live a freedom-filled life saturated with spontaneity?
yes, and I urge your to try it.
happy tidying everyone!
Hello my neat and tidy readers,
This week’s story is of pure inspiration, serendipity, and not a little sympathetic resonance. And believe it or not, it all started with a blog.
I arrived promptly at our meeting time of 5:30 PM for a consultation with a potential new client. The information I had gathered up to that point was that of a woman who was in need of help taking some tasks off of her plate. As per usual, having no idea what to expect, I pulled up to her house in my trusty white Kia Sportage. I Put my car in park. Set the alarm (beep beep). Closed my eyes to take in the warmth of the evening sun and instantly a surge of love and bliss almost bowled me over.
Keys and phone in bag.
New client forms in hand.
I really need to get my car washed.
Ok. I’m ready.
I could hear her music from the street. I knocked on the door and she answered with a side pony of tousled strawberry blonde hair and in what looked to be her workout gear. Very trim and fit, her petite and muscular frame was the epitome of health and vitality. Her home, absolutely stunning. I can usually tell when an artist lives in the house because it looks, well, like a piece of art. Linear and minimalist decor, exquisite color palette and everything in a well calculated station. To all you messy artists, I said usually. Seeing her home left me wondering why she had me there at all.
Then came the typical cup of coffee, (but this time it was homemade vitamin water that she had made with frozen blueberries, lime and mint and it was oh-so-yummy) followed up by a friendly introduction and a tour of her home. She showed me the main floor which consisted of the living room, her office, the kitchen, laundry room and a bed and bath.
Up the stairs we went.
Often I find that people can be very guarded when it comes to putting their homes and lives in order, and many times they like to vet the person that they’ll be sharing their intimate details with. I find these meetings to be especially exhilarating, and I love sharing my philosophy with new people.
As she lead me along, it was clear that she was very trusting. She held nothing back as she expressed her dissatisfaction for the minimal storage in her lofted bedroom. I of course saw nothing but perfection. Vaulted ceilings, butterfly café lights strewn above her bed and her artwork on the walls. One of them was an astute drawing of Jim Morrison. To me It was clear she desired freedom. Internal freedom.
At the beginning of the consultation, I sensed almost immediately the desperate situation of my possible future client. She was a lovely young woman, and very sweet, but I could literally see a phantom heaviness that she seemed to carry and her tone of voice said that she was emotionally numb. It was evident in her face and shoulders that she was carrying burdens far too heavy for anyone to bear alone.
I followed her out to the backyard where she had a very bohemian setup of a loveseat, throw rug, an old chest, which looked like it belonged on a pirate ship and some happy plants along with two cats parading in and out of the back door.
We then sat down and talked about her goals for herself:
-Help me get my calendar in order.
-I need help checking emails to stay on top of them.
-Maybe help me pull some weeds too.
-I used to cook a lot so maybe I need to get back into that.
-I used to do a lot of things….
As our conversation continued, she really opened up to me. She slowly explained that she had experienced some serious trauma in her life and her past had been hard to shake.
I listened intently.
I cannot reveal the tragedies of her life, for I told her I wouldn’t. She listed the details of the horrors she had experienced at the ripe old age of 29 and I could see she was somewhat ready to take the first steps toward setting things aright. She also made it clear she wanted to hire someone that didn’t know her, someone that would hold her accountable to checking things off of her to-do list and to basically help get her confidence back. She thought that maybe I could help.
To say the least, it was very humbling.
We then talked some more about life and what it is that makes us happy and sad. She’s traveled the world and her eyes lit up like sparklers on the 4th of July when she spoke of her time in Italy. The lover she found there. Her writing. She now has a hard time getting out of bed and suffers from PTSD.
“I think I have to start over from when I was a kid and re-learn everything.”
This is the part of the consultation where I like to interject my spiritual take on organizing when its appropriateness is made clear. After listening to her words of “I feel hopeless and helpless” and seeing the look on her face of pure fear and uncertainty, I felt it time to to share with her some profound words that my mentor has taught me, words that have delivered me from many of my own light and dark moments.
"Don't attach yourself to the outcome.”
Which is to say, it doesn't matter what you accomplish so long as you're developing self-love and are remaining present, in the moment. Self-love means you're doing the things for your own self-approval and recognition and no one else's. If the dishes are dirty in the sink, and the laundry is on the couch unfolded, which is also a current description of my home, it doesn't mean that you're a failure.
It means that you're human.
She had the idea, as do many of us, that if everything is perfect and in order on the outside, then everything will be perfect and in order on the inside, and let’s face it, this is rarely the case. She admitted that keeping things in their place was her therapy and it gave her a sense of control. But this method had yet to exonerate her from the depths of hell she described so clearly. She was in fact a prisoner to her own thoughts.
I then explained to her that it had been my experience that true peace can only be realized in the moment, when you don't let the end result dictate your emotions or your present state of being.
She paused for several seconds and it was like a whirlwind came by and took a wisp of her angst.
"Wow," she said.
"Freedom," I said.
Our conversation went on for quite a while, and by this point we had been about as vulnerable as two strangers can possibly be with each other. I shared with her my own struggles and my own setbacks along the path, she shared more of herself as well, and I caught sight of a lovely smile slowly spreading across her face. And before I knew it, even those tensed shoulders started to relax and that smile had spread to my own face, and we were chatting like a couple of old friends, just catching up.
She told me of her love for the book The Alchemist, as she flipped through it she showed me her notes in the margin of nearly every page. Most of her hesitancy had left, and a comfortability had taken its place. My consultations are normally 30 minutes long and an hour at the maximum. I looked at my phone and 2 hours had passed.
As we both transitioned from our chairs, she moved to sit on top of the deck railing as if to view things from a higher vantage point. She told me that she didn't want to compare her accomplishments with others anymore. She said that it always leaves her feeling empty and like a failure. I told her, the only person that I ever compare myself with is who I was yesterday and that I try to ride the waves of my experiences like a surfer.
Stay on top. Know you will eventually fall and you need to. Have to. But stay under for too long and it might take your life.
She loved that.
We made our arrangements to meet later, where we’d share the liberating task of organizing her material life, and removing one more burden from those weary shoulders. She called our meeting fortuitous and I left her with a hug and when we parted I told her she was beautiful. And that was the truth.
Geez. I guess I never knew how meaningful a blog could be.
I walked towards my car and closed my eyes once more to feel the glow and strength of the eternal sun setting behind the Rocky Mountains.
It truly is a reflection of us all.
Our meeting ironically happened during Pride Fest. For those of you who don't know what that is, it is a day for lovers of all kinds to celebrate each other and as I drove through Denver on my way home, I regarded all the hand-holding and freedom-ringing these lovers displayed. The skipping along in every kind of costume and color as if to convey to the neigh sayers “eff you, I’ll love who I wanna love and I’ll live for me” reminded me of myself and I have a tiny suspicion that my client is about to feel that way too, very soon.
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
I think Spring cleaning is a worldwide phenomenon. In the last month I've received several calls about people wanting to get organized or to help with packing because they're moving out of their old homes or are moving into a new one. There is something to be said for this fortuitous season and I believe it's about cleaning up the death that Winter has left behind. Not only are people wanting to get organized in their homes but in their relationships as well. Everyone I've spoken with in the last few weeks has gone through a break up or emotional transition of some sort and none of them seem to be remorseful! They actually seem to be excited to move into the new season with a strong sense of optimism and desire to be organized and that's why I love Spring! Fresh starts, new beginnings and new inspirations to live life.
For myself, I have to end my relationship with all of the dust bunnies and unused items laying around the house that have accumulated over the last several months. This is truly a feeling of being cleansed from the inside out. Sometimes this is difficult when you are stuck in a rut of not knowing what to do. What I do to purge a subject in my life, i.e. clothing, kitchen items, garage etc, and I say subject because we often have items of the same subject stored in different places in the house, is I pull everything out for that particular subject and sort by category. The kitchen is my most favorite to organize regularly because items get lost and food expires and when new food comes in there always seems to be less and less room. I take everything out of cupboards and drawers purging old food and wipe off what's staying. I use the dining room table and put like items together. Once you've done this your kitchen will look worse than when you started but it is necessary so you my take an inventory of your items and put them in the proper place. This project will probably take you all day or over the course of a weekend so I tend to only do it twice a year. Or if you're pressed for time, do sections i.e. pantry and food cupboards then the next session tackle the food storage, match lids to containers.
Firstly, If you're having trouble getting started, try to do a visualization of how you'd like for your kitchen to look and if you don't know then try to imagine how you want your kitchen to feel. I like to look on Pinterest or Apartment Therapy websites to get inspiration and then just get started. Turn on your favorite music, illicit some help from a friend, pour a glass of wine or do whatever you need to to accomplish your goal. If you find yourself hemming and hawing about making decisions you'll never get started.
Facing things on the shelves or buying rounders really helps to see what you have. You can purchase organizing containers to help store things more efficiently and if you're on a budget I recommend going to the thrift store or to discount stores like TJ Maxx. I don't typically recommend buying anything prior to your purge unless it's something small like drawer organizers or shelf risers. You may end up buying things you don't need and then returning them may prove to be challenging. As you go through your items you'll get a sense of what you really use and what you don't. Taste buds change and for my family the infamous baking items like sprinkles and frosting get stored and end up in the very back of the cabinet never to be seen again until the following year and by then they've expired. So for now, we make our own frosting if we even use it and the sprinkles get thrown out after holiday baking.
My kitchen is rather small and cooking for my boys is easy because I tend to only use what goes in the fridge. I have spices but not too many and I have a few canned goods but other than that I don't store packaged items simply because I don't have the room. This doesn't work for all families but for example we have a few bags of granola and for breakfast the boys usually eat fruit, sausage and toast or cereal. On weekends I'll make pancakes or french toast which all require minimal packaged ingredients. This is also a good time to evaluate your eating habits and if you want to lose weight or have more energy, limiting processed or packaged food is a great place to start.
Ok. You've done it. You've separated the what-you're-keeping and the what-you're-pitching. When you notice there are several bags of expired food that are headed for the trash, don't panic! This is a good exercise in really seeing why it's important to keep on top of kitchen organization.
Now everything is organized, wiped off and ready to be put back. I like to put messy items such as coconut oil and honey in little dishes to sit in so my shelves don't get sticky or oily and i also like to keep baking items in baskets or trays so that when we do bake I can pull it down, find the items i need and then easily put it back when we are finished. Above my stove are the items I use for dinners such as pasta, oatmeal and canned beans. above the toaster is the coconut oil, honey and things we don't use very often. The dishes go to the right and left of the sink to make it easy to put them back (I don't have a dishwasher) but if you have one, your dishes should be right above or as close as possible.
I clean the fridge twice a year as well. If you are a busy household you might need to do it more often but I try to wipe out the fruit and veggie drawer as they empty and I keep shelves clean just before my trip to the grocery store. Little ones love to help clean so maybe their job can be pulling everything out of the fridge door, wiping them off and putting them back. If you have no extra hands to help then wipe as you go for this will make it more manageable. The oven needs a little cookie sheet on the bottom shelf to catch crumbs and vinegar and baking soda clean the sides caked with grease.
If you've taken the time to survey and purge your entire kitchen you should feel a sense of accomplishment. If you still have the infamous kitchen junk drawer or the under-the-sink cleaning items in disarray you might still feel a twinge of disorder inside of yourself but once it is completed freedom should be the dominant emotion and who doesn't want to feel more of that?
Happy Tidying Everyone!
Spring has sprung ya'll and it's time to put those heavy scarves away for the next 6 months. The Konmari method is quite useful, author of Spark Joy, and helps to display folded items in a way that's both visually pleasing and keeps things neat and tidy. If you have the drawer space I highly recommend trying this and depending on your drawer size, you'll have to try a few different folding methods to make it fit your space. If you don't have drawer space but haven't purged in a while then I would urge you to do so. Keeping things tucked away in drawers allows your bedroom to feel lighter and more open.
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
Hello! I've been missing for a bit but now I'm back. It's been a crazy few months and I'm just ecstatic that Spring is almost here!!
I had the most amazing clients a few weeks back and I'm just tickled to get to share my experience with you. I received an email requesting a consultation. When I arrived I met with a husband and wife that were clearly distraught and very overwhelmed. As they told me their story I began to understand the very reason why they were needing my services. They have a daughter with severe ADHD and possible bi-polar disorder. She needs 24/7 care and on top of both of their careers their lives consist of the constant monitoring of moods and behaviors all while trying to keep their heads and home above water.
Usually when I meet clients like these it's very apparent that they are capable of being organized but their lives don't allow them the energy or time it takes to get there.
Their main concern was that their daughter had too much stuff throughout the house and didn't like being in her bedroom. They wanted all of her things sorted, purged and then put back in the right place so that they could help her manage her things better. One thing I had to take into consideration was that if I changed anything in her room, i.e. furniture placement, it could severely affect her in a very negative way. So I made sure that before my team and I were to begin they needed to ask her what things could go and what could stay.
I arrived with my team of 4 ready to get started and the first thing they said was that she wanted nothing to change and she wanted us to just pick up the floor. The mother was having severe anxiety and let us know she was very worried about what her daughters' reaction would be when she came home to her new room.
Jamie and I worked in her bedroom while April and Zoe worked on everything else in the living room and basement. Her bedroom was filled to the brim with stuffed cats and art projects. It was purple and pink and you could tell she was a very intelligent 11 year old with her love of books and the solar system. We discarded everything dad said she didn't play with anymore. Mom was very sentimental about the clothes that no longer fit and the things she no longer cared for. She actually had to leave for a bit because it was so emotional for her and I don't blame her in the least bit. De-cluttering can be a very sensitive issue especially when it involves someone that is so dear to you.
After 5 hours and all of our fingers crossed we finished. The parents were relieved and I was scheduled to come back the following day to meet their daughter and to go over everything with her. The hours following were a tiny bit stressful because I too was worried about her reaction. We didn't follow her direction and in fact we changed almost her entire room.
The following day I arrived with a tiny orchid as a room warming gift. She was in her room and her parents said they hadn't been able to get her to come out!
SHE WAS IN LOVE WITH ALL OF THE CHANGES WE MADE!!!
I let her use my label maker to mark all of her art supply boxes we had organized in the living room and I showed her exactly where everything went. We came up with a plan to make clean-up easier and she was very proud of her new room.
I have to say this was the best experience I've had with a client up to this point. She was so grateful and newly inspired to be in her little world. I could see the wheels turning in her mind as she thought of all the things she could do now that the clutter was out. Mom and dad were happy that she was happy not to mention relieved that it was now all very manageable.
At the end of my meeting with the daughter she handed me a thank you note that she had made for me. This day happened to land on Valentine's Day so it was full of hearts and love. I think it's the best Valentine I've ever received.
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
This is a weekly rant about my organization experiences and holy crap have we been busy!
Monday- was spent organizing an office with a new client who recently had rotator cuff surgery and who is normally less inclined to keeping things tidy on her desk. For her birthday she was gifted the organizing time by a friend of hers who is a regular weekly client of Call Kate.
When I walked into her home I noticed the elaborate works of art on the walls and the beautiful art deco furniture she had including a new puppy that greeted me with a tail wag and a lick on the hand. The home was very well put together and serene with beautiful 2 story windows. I am usually baffled by clients' homes like this one because the un-tidiness is not within eyesight. She then walked me up the stairs and took to me to the end of the hall where lay her untidy office.
There were piles of paper on the desk and on the floor. Her overwhelmed look let me know she was anything but thrilled to be doing this project. There we unpaid bills, tax documents, Xmas cards, magazines and junk mail. We went through everything, shredded, filed and put the rest into the recycling bin. After 2 hours we weren't entirely finished but at the end of our session this wonderful woman gave me a hug and said Thank You!
Tuesday- was a Call Kate quickie! I had the wonderful opportunity of working with this home owner on her closet the week prior and today we tackled her kitchen.
Her pantry was somewhat manageable but the least desirable for her. I pulled everything out. Checked all the expiry dates and pitched all the old food. I put everything back according to it's order and she had a ton of room left over for her next grocery shopping trip!
Wednesday- Call Kate had an organization frenzy on our hands. This home owner just had her kitchen remodeled and was already busting at the seems while she was using a linen closet and downstairs storage to house all the food they used. Her husband is a serious cook and uses every spice and spatula under the sun to regularly entertain his family and friends.
After 4.5 hours and me seriously sweating it, we finished! We had 2 linen closets completely dismantled the entire kitchen pulled apart and the downstairs storage in total shambles with 1 hour left and we pulled it off. I'm still not sure how we did it but we did!
Thursday- was spent in Boulder and let's just say this home owner is going to be a client that I remember forever. We click in every way. We're the same age. She has 2 kids. She loves BoHo design and she is an artist. She also has a hard time making decisions and trusting her instincts which I have been known to go through as well in so many aspects of my life.
We spent her scheduled time on making lots and lots of decisions and guess what!? She already had everything she needed to get started. Did I mention this client loves fabric? And not just any fabric. She absolutely is smitten with Mid-Century Modern original fabrics. When she showed them to me it was like watching a devoted gardener coupling his delicate blooms that he had grown from seeds. She explained to me her heart-felt devotion to these fabrics as if they were a piece of her while she embraced them so tenderly next to her heart. (I'm really trying to describe how truly inspired she is by these fabrics and I think everyone should feel this way about something in their lives.)
Her bedroom was the last room to be decorated so I had her pull everything out that she loved that had been sitting un-touched in her closet. We hung one of her favorite Vera Neumann scarves, that she framed herself, on the wall and it just so happened that the duvet cover she bought from Urban Outfitters was a perfect match. I received a text last night "Kate, you are incredible at what you do. Thank you for being so bold, artistic and SO logical." Actually to be honest I didn't do anything. She had all the pieces to the puzzle and she just needed a little push in the right direction to complete her project. I had to actually put my foot down and say, "this is your house and you get to put anything in it the you want. If we put it up and it looks awful then we'll take it down. And if people come to your home and snub their nose at your choices in decor then they aren't welcome back!" We are also working on a new duvet for her sons room with some mid-mod fabric she had stored away and she can't wait for it to be finished. (With her permission her bedroom is posted at the top and i'll post photos as soon as the duvet for her son has been sewn together.)
Now for the juicy part of the day....
Remember how I told you about Wednesday's frenzy? Well it also involved about 20 cans of old paint and supplies which we put in the back of my car for me to take to the paint recycling center. Long story short, I couldn't drive to Boulder on Thursday so at the last minute I asked one of the girls to drive because I was afraid to drive them around with all the toxic chemicals in the back. She owns Nissan Leaf which is an electric car and she didn't get to fully charge it the night before but we figured it would all be ok because they had charging stations in Boulder. We get to Boulder, no prob at all. We go to Alfalfa's for lunch and plug in her car, no prob at all. On our way back to Denver to our next client the Leaf decides there is a problem and we have to find a charging station asap! Well it's not that easy. We drove around for about an hour and finally found one (way more stressful than i'm letting on) which so happened to be about a 30 minute walk to our client. No prob at all. We practically skipped through downtown and with the weather being so gorgeous I could hardly contain the joy I was feeling. (These girls that choose to work with me are my gifts and I am so grateful that they believe in Call Kate's success.) We get to client appointment a little late and a tiny bit frazzled but no prob. We finish and we Uber it back to the car. Well. Then. We see a parking ticket on the windshield because we didn't pay for parking. The sign said FREE so we didn't even think of paying for the meter. $60. I'll take care of it.
We all decided it was a fortuitous evening and weren't the least bit dismayed about finishing 3 hours later than planned.
Friday-I've been awake since 4 am preparing 1099's for the girls, finding marketing images for the website and meeting on Monday and finally writing my blog. I of course will not be paid for these 8 hours (at least not directly but maybe as a result of my blog and marketing efforts i'll get some tiny compensation) but I love owning my own business and wouldn't trade it for anything.
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
Just saw this quote and it let me breathe a little easier. I don't believe in failure and I think it should be called something more compassionate like "whoops" or "did I really just do that again?" Happy Monday!
"Failure is the opportunity to begin again, more intelligently."
- Henry Ford
Well it's 2016 and I've been taking an inventory of my life. I've come so far in the last 3 years and it seems almost impossible but I've become a successful business owner. I now have a team of great girls and we have several recurring clients and I couldn't be more proud of myself. I'm so grateful for everyone around me that has been supportive and continues to cheer me on! I don't know where I'd be without all of you so here's a tiny shout out to my peeps... Thank you mom and Russ, you both are the best! Thank you Sri Gary for pointing me to the love I've been yearning for all of my life. Thank you to my chela peeps for your loving Satsang when I needed to be set aright. Thanks Dad and Dana, for helping me with the boys when I needed to work. Thank you to my boys for teaching me everyday why loving myself is most important and why having patience for myself means having patience for you. Oma, you are still my idol, you've survived so many things like the holocaust and moving to the USA and you still have the most joyful laugh especially when you tell dirty jokes.
Ok back to the blog...
How did I get to this point?
Being a professional organizer I've seen a lot of homes and met a lot of people. In my experience, the people that seemed to be the most frustrated with their lives were the ones who lived with a lot of clutter and with items they didn't relish. One thing I have realized after all these years of helping my clients get tidy is that one's living space is a direct reflection of who you are and how you treat yourself. Look around, do you love coming home and being surrounded by all of the things that bring you joy or is your home full of clutter and does it look like a pigsty? Are you excited to come home every day or do you dread it? Part of the process to achieving organization and having a desirable living space is not only purging unwanted items but also getting rid of all the negative thoughts that don't lift you up and support you. Letting go of all of the things, thoughts and people that don't bring you joy can surprisingly increase energy and vitality not to mention it will open your mind to new goals and dreams.
Isn't it strange how some of us surround ourselves with people whose opinions of us don't coincide with the opinions we have of ourselves and then we question why we aren't happy? Or maybe you do agree with their opinions of you. Do you? Well I'm here to tell you from experience you embody the energy of the company you keep and the thoughts that you entertain. Your heart has a desire to fulfill the dreams you wanted as a child and surrounding yourself with people who don't respect you and who don't honor you, don't deserve a place in your life. Ultimately, those people are reflections of our thoughts. If you absolutely love yourself humbly and live a life full of giving to others then there's no room for the negativity those thoughts or people may bring. If you just simply have the desire to change and decide to act instead of react then they will typically fall out of your life or learn to respect you without any effort on your part. Sometimes some Spring cleaning may be in order and it's up to you to get out the trash bags because you must be your own best advocate.
Do you hate that old worn out chair? Do you avoid sitting in the living room because it just doesn't feel comfy and cozy? Do you avoid being home altogether? Well it's of the utmost importance to love where you live. Where you live is sacred and it must make you feel safe and loved. No, I'm absolutely not suggesting that you run out to Room and Board or Pottery Barn and refurnish your living space but I am suggesting that if you have the desire to love your home then it can be done even if you are on a budget!
Over the years I've received a lot of hand-me-downs and bought things at consignment stores. Yes, some do frown upon this because they equate who they are with the things they buy. Those are the people or thoughts that you must remove from your life (I've done this and I can't tell you in words how liberating it is).
I am an artist so I hang my paintings on my walls. I am a professional organizer so each room in my home has all the necessary items in it to insure that it functions properly. The walls are painted Linen White by Benjamin Moore because, for me, a neutral background allows me to express myself with lots of color and texture in the accents I've chosen. I'll let you in on a tiny secret about me... I get excited to vacuum! Am I the only one? I also love doing the dishes! I don't have a dishwasher and washing them by hand allows me to slow down and relax. Ok so that's a little nuts but I dare you to turn off your tv, walk away from the computer and put down your smart phone, go to the sink and start washing some dishes! It'll take a little effort of changing your attitude but washing dishes can be joyful. Ironing is definitely one of my faves too.
So, how do I get the ball rolling, Kate?
Start a dream board or go on Pinterest or Instagram and get your ideas consolidated into a place that you can look at often. I've displayed mine in the pic above. Next, take a look around and decide what's staying and what's going then post your gently used items on ebay or craigslist and donate the rest. Maybe you won't have a couch for a year. I did this and I survived. The perfect couch came into my life as a hand-me-down and I couldn't be happier. Look at Ikea, on Craigslist and at garage sales or consignment shops. There are hidden gems everywhere and you'll get to go on a vacation with all the money you've saved.
It's taken me over a year to achieve this and it's far from finished but I now look forward to coming home every day because I've designed my living space to support my need for a loving, creative and comfortable home. Everything has it's place and if something is out of order, it is easily remedied because my children and I know exactly where everything goes.
Speaking of my children, they love their rooms. They have just enough stuff in them to keep them happy and they know where everything goes. I bought my youngest's bed from a friend and the rest I bought from Ikea and target. He has legos and play-dough along with his dinosaurs and cars. He has a little place to sit and look at his books and draw. He also has an old cardboard box that we turned into a fort in his closet. My oldest's room is so cute and is perfect for a 9 year old. He has a bunk bed for sleepovers and a section in the corner where he can play his guitar. We have a dresser in the living room, if you can believe it, full of art supplies and board games. They are boys and they paint and draw regularly and love it. We sleep with our doors open at night and they know they can hop in bed with mommy if they've had a nightmare or a cold. Yes, my living space nurtures this feeling of love for all of us. Just tonight I made cabbage, fried potatoes and bratwurst for dinner. Seeing my oldest's eyes roll in the back of his head with delight makes it all worth it.
Our living space is us. I heard a woman speak recently that I greatly respect. She raised 3 boys as a single mom and conveyed that her service to them was loving them and one way she did this was by cooking for them. I used to hate to cook and lately all I've been doing is cooking. No dishwasher, no fancy kitchen, just me and my favorite "Spa" Pandora station, burning some sage and using my favorite chopping knife from Ikea. Hey, if you don't have a good chopping knife cooking sucks. Thank you, Ikea.
Ok back to the subject of your living space...
All you need is love. It's a bit cheesy but oh-so-true. You deserve to be loved and to love yourself so don't be afraid to make the necessary changes in your life to achieve your goals. Fear is an illusion and it is the only thing standing in the way between the person you are now and the person you want to be. Do something every day that inspires you to live this life and it will bring you that much closer to becoming the person you desire to be. In my opinion, it starts with your living space so if buying new furniture is out of the question then just simply rearrange what you have and get rid of all the things you no longer need!
In the meantime, I'd recommend reading The Four Agreements, A New Earth, The Artist's Way (everyone can relate to this book because we are all artists) and my most recent fave The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. These books helped me get here too. Not a reader? I just found an app through Amazon that will read it to you through your smart phone. You can listen in the car or anywhere you'd like.
Raising two boys on my own isn't easy and running a business is constantly challenging me so living the perfect life isn't a goal I set for myself . Sometimes I lose my patience with my boys and think about throwing in the towel with my business but then I look around my living space and remember what it's all for. The most important thing to remember is that I'm ALWAYS doing my best and you are too, even when sometimes our best sucks and IF you could do it any better you would. If there needs to be an adjustment and you refuse to make the change, life will come around and change it for you. There have been and will always be obstacles, big ones and little ones but it's how we handle them that counts. At the end of the day it's between you and your attitude.
So when I say "out with the old and in with the new" I'm really referring to the living space inside of you. This can mean your antiquated thought process and your inability to rationalize in the present moment. Look at your life, are you pleasant to be around? Are the majority of the words you speak inward and outward both positive? Do you have friends and family that enjoy your company? Does the majority of your life consist of pleasant moments and not conflict? Do your insides feel settled and at ease? Are you capable of seeing the positive side to people and life? If not, then pull out the rug from under yourself and make the change. You're only as strong as your weakest link and you can rearrange furniture all day long but if you still beat yourself up for not being perfect or have a crappy attitude about life then it'll be like rearranging the furniture on the titanic.
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
What if tidying your closet is a symbol for clearing out dead images and old thought forms? I can physically take my old clothes out of the closet and donate them and probably could do that with 95% of what I own. And what's ironic is I've already donated half of my wardrobe.
So how does one take off their old self in order to become their new self? I'd love to be able to donate some of my.......ok most of my tendencies but moving into a new state of consciousness isn't quite so easy. And to be completely honest most of the clothing in my closet is unfit for an almost 40 year old as are my old thoughts and ways of doing things. So what is the answer?
The answer is fear.
What if I need those clothes next summer or next fall. What if I finally lose the ten pounds that have been hanging on to my bottom for dear life for the last 5 years? Or what if I say goodbye to someone that I might need later on even if they no longer fit into my life now? What if I don't like the lady in waiting?
So the old clothing also represents hope and an attachment to the past and not only to things but to people and possible future disappointment.
But the real question is what if the clothes hanging in my closet are the very reasons why I feel stuck in my old ways? Or is it just my way of rearranging the furniture on the Titanic? The fear and attachment are their reasons for being and their being in my closet are the very reasons for my fear and attachment to old ways of thinking and acting.
If I look at myself as the closet itself and the clothes or rather attachments and illusions are what I need to be rid of then what the hell am I waiting for?? I'm always telling my clients that the outer is a direct reflection of the inner and if the outer is filled with nonsensical items then the inside isn't free to move forward. So again i ask what is the answer?
The answer is surrender.
I must surrender all of it. The clothes, the false ideologies, the future, the past and the very idea of any kind of non-spontaneous living. Why is Call Kate so successful? Because on a whim I took a chance. I surrendered all of my hopes, dreams fears and expectations and threw caution to the wind and said sail or no sail i'm in the middle of the ocean and eff it I've put myself here and I will eventually reach land. If I perish so be it. If I survive so be it. It's in the moment where I realize I am the ocean, boat, and paddle and without surrender I am not who I wish to be.
Well I guess it's time to start practicing what I preach. Happy Mothers Day!!
maybe all i have to do is merely surrender the fear and the rest will come out in the wash...?
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
Sometimes you just have to go all in and say eff it to fear and illusion. I've encountered some of the most amazing people in the last few days all of whom are new and old clients. The first person is a lady that just survived cancer and is probably the most beautiful woman I've ever met. She and her husband have a teenage son and he wanted to go to East Highschool so badly they moved from their 2m dollar home and squeezed into a tiny apt for 9 months just so he could be in district. While they lived in the tiny apt they allowed a family that was going through a tough time to use their home while they got back on their feet. The fact that she survived cancer is a feat in and of itself but her willingness to live spontaneously is what captivated my attention.
The 2nd person is an attorney who does pro bono work for people in shelters and who are homeless. She lost her husband a few years ago to cancer and she's had to learn how to take care of everything for herself all alone with 20 years of memories and things in her house. Her voice sounds like a song bird when she speaks but I can see the fear in her eyes. I gave her a hug at the end of her consolation. I sensed that it surprised and comforted her. Since we've started the work in her home she's gone through a lot of physical challenges and so it seems that a lot of pent up emotions are being purged.
The 3rd person is a woman who is a self chosen single mother that adopted a boy from Russia when he was a year old. She is severely struggling with his violent behavior and he is only 7 years old. I see how strong she is but the fear of what to do with him is getting worse. Still day in and day out she loves this boy even if it means sacrificing her own happiness and the possibility of being with the man she loves.
The 4th person is a woman who runs a rape crisis center and is a psychologist. I helped her organize her closet. The few times I've seen her we've laughed and laughed about why dating sucks, about funny pet stories and about the reality of rape. She tells me stories about the people she sees in her clinic but if you met her you'd never know what she did for a living because she's so light and carefree.
I see these women weekly and I observe them in their lives. I try to see myself in them because I know there is a part that is a reflection of me and there's something for me to learn. Well what we all have in common is that we are all women with a choice. The cancer survivor makes the choice to be happy, and I think she smiles the whole time I'm at her house. The attorney makes the choice to help others even though she is faced with many painful life experiences including the death of her husband. He's been gone for over 5 years and we are donating all of his belongings so she can get ready to sell her home. The 4th person teaches yoga on top of running the rape crisis center. She makes the choice every day to go to a place that has little to no funding and isn't supported by the police dept. She does it merely because people need help.
Well who the hell am I to complain about anything....ever?
I'm no one compared to these strong self-made women. Or maybe they are a reflection of my strength and their faces tell me I can do it no matter what comes down the line. I'm sure there are many lessons I will learn from all of them just by being in their presence. One thing I'm learning is that tragedy or difficulty is really just put on our path to make us realize what strong human beings we truly are.
I paid 3k in taxes yesterday and I was very close to writing a thank you note to the IRS for giving me the opportunity to be honest and make a living. I must be crazy but I was really excited to write the check simply because I had the money to pay it. Attitude and attention are the only 2 things we own and can control.
Thanks for reading this.
So I have some inspiring news to share. I started working for a new client back in September. She's a single mother and working professional. She hired me to help her get her entire home organized and to help weekly with errands, laundry etc. Our conversations from the very beginning were very open and honest and she told me how she longed for a husband with whom she wished to share her life. I believe it was on our first meeting that I bet her that she would find him shortly after we started cleaning out the clutter and getting her home life in order. Over the months she's gone on some pretty disappointing dates but sure enough she has found her person.
Your living space is a direct reflection of your state of consciousness. If there's clutter then you are stagnating the flow of your harmonious life.
Now for my part of the story. Over the past few months I've been longing for more meaning and spontaneity in my chosen profession. My week consisted of 4 personal assistant clients plus an office job one day a week. Every week was the same. Laundry, grocery shopping and errands. I was rarely getting any organizing clients and I was longing for that connection with people that needed my help. A few weeks ago a client and I mutually agreed to part ways and another client needed Wednesdays only so I had to give that client to my new employee. I was terrified of the financial implications but a wonderful feeling of peace came over me when I let the changes happen. A voice inside of me said it's all perfect, you'll see. Within a week my phone started ringing off the hook with new clients and I'm making more money now than I was before. The sayings "there are no guarantees in life" and "nothing stays the same" are both hitting me in the face but for reasons that aren't negative.
There's something to be said for listening to your intuition and to what our hearts yearn for. No, there are no guarantees in life and yes, I may lose my business tomorrow or be struck with a terminal illness or I might become a millionaire...who knows. All I do know is that I only have the present moment and when I live in the moment, faith and love carry me home. I can only succeed. I can only win. I am the creator of my universe.
Happy Tidying Everyone!
"Leap and the net will appear" isn't just a cheesy post on FB and I know plenty of people who can personally testify to this. Take the leap. Ask for help. Find your passion and let love in. It's the only thing that can truly change us for love isn't an emotion it's a state of being.
So what does love have to do with it?
Happy Tidying, Everyone!
No, it's not just a song by Janet Jackson. Lately I've been looking around my living space and I'm tired of it. But nothing excites me more than coming up with new ideas to make me love it again. So last night I decided it was time to do just that. No, I didn't run to IKEA or Target to buy new bedding or furniture. I simply rearranged and dusted and cleaned my house from top to bottom. I moved pictures and furniture and I placed fresh flowers throughout. This opened me up to more inspiration of ideas. I live in a house that is 685 sq. ft. with 2 little boys and 2 dogs and believe me, being organized is the only thing I have when it comes to functioning on a somewhat sane level.
I did the same thing with my closet. I took out all of the clothes that physically made me feel icky inside and i put them in a pile to donate. I then took out all the clothes that would never fit again (so be it and I'm fine with that) and I made a pile to give to my younger step-sis. I then put some coat hooks on the inside of the door for hanging purses and i also organized all of the clothing by season (and no, not by color because i'm not that picky).
Next was the fridge. I pulled out all things moldy and that had been shoved to the very back for more than a few weeks. Yes, even professional organizers sometimes let things go. I pulled out all the shelves wiped them off and put everything back in a neat and orderly fashion. Then I tackled the pantry, laundry room and cabinets. Now remember, my space is only 685 sq. ft. so what will take me maybe a couple of hours to organize might actually take you days so don't try to accomplish everything all on at once. A wise man says, "slow and steady wins the race!"
My 2 boys share a room and once a quarter or a little more often i make them pull out their bins of toys and I have them take out everything they are finished playing with. We take out clothes that are too stained to wear and donate those too. We also rearrange photos and toys on display to make it look like new. Hello parents! Kids can't keep their rooms clean because they have too much stuff. You think you're overwhelmed with their rooms as an adult? Well their little minds are even more overwhelmed because they don't know how to just say no. Trips to Target don't equal a new something or other and the memories of love and quality time is irreplaceable and can't be donated to the Goodwill.
Now for the outside. Overgrown trees, disheveled rose bushes, dirty windows, etc. etc. I was so overwhelmed I had to ask for help. I hired my neighbor to do the tree trimming because he has a chainsaw. Not only did he trim the trees but he hauled all the branches off to the dump. I hosed down the outside of the house and washed windows inside and out. I've added a few flower boxes and pots and Voila! my home now has some curb appeal.
After about a month of a few hours here and a few hours there my house is in tip top shape! It feels like a new house and my children even noticed the changes in the furniture and photos. I feel newly inspired when i come home and adding fresh flowers once or twice a month does wonders. The new plan to keeping it this way? I have to implement the 15 minute rule. Everyone pitches in picking up for 15 minutes every night before bed because I'd rather spend my weekends with my children playing and having fun than stuck in the house making us all feel like slaves. My oldest who is 8 is in charge of folding laundry and putting it away. My youngest who is almost 4 is in charge of putting away groceries and putting laundry in and out of the washer and dryer. I also make them make their beds every day (almost every day).
Happy tidying everyone!
So to say the least this has been a trying few weeks. How does one keep their head above water when things seem to be falling apart around us? The dogs need to be walked, the kids need to be fed, the bills have to be paid, the laundry, the grocery shopping, cleaning house, the yard, the dishes, friends, family, my business, emails, Facebook......
This is a good question that many of my clients ask me quite often and the answer is,
DO ONLY WHAT YOU CAN AND DON'T EVER FEEL GUILTY ABOUT IT!
Picture yourself at the dinner table and you have a plate in front of you. There's only so many things that will fit on that plate, right? The problem is we have not only the plate in front of us but we also have 10 stacks of dishes waiting in line for our attention and this is where we make our mistakes.
As a mother of 2 kids, 2 dogs, a home and business owner I tend to overload my plate almost daily. What does this lead to? Unfinished projects, empty promises and unintentional neglect not only for myself but also for things that should be dealt with in a timely fashion.
So, what do we do about this dilemma that is facing the majority of people in our society today?
We make a list.
Yep, a list! This might seem arbitrary or like a waste of time but it actually will help hold you accountable to yourself and keep you on task. Mom isn't around anymore to remind you to clean your room or do your homework, so the responsibility is in your hands.
The following steps have been developed over a period of time of my own trial and error.
Step 1 - Develop your Master List
This list should consist of EVERYTHING that needs to be accomplished and ranking in priority. I recommend carrying a notebook if you don't have a smart phone so you can write anything and everything down when it pops into your mind. Think big! No task is too trite to write down, for writing it down gets you 1 step closer to accomplishment.
What kinds of things should be on your Master List? Well, what things aren't getting accomplished in your life or what are the things that are looming over your head that need to be addressed? Your list can range from home improvement to self improvement. If "becoming a better parent or spouse" or "learn business etiquette" is on your mind write it on your list. You'll see what I mean by this later.
Step 2- Make a daily list
This can be done the morning of or you can prepare daily lists several days in advance. A helpful tool is a paper or online calendar. This list should consist of the top 5 things on your Master List and of course as you remove tasks as they are completed the next 5 will rise to the top. When you have appointments that are scheduled for the day it goes on your Daily List so that means one of the tasks from your Master List will have to wait until tomorrow or if you're feeling spunky keep it and do it!
TV and social media should be kept to a minimum for these things demand a lot of our time and we can lose hours and days doing them. If these are pressing things in your life then put them on your Daily or Weekly List and allow 1 hour for yourself to enjoy them. I would suggest taking the Facebook app or any app you are constantly giving your attention to off of your smartphone if you find you are on it most of the day. You'd be surprised at how much time is lost surfing the net and how your mind will justify putting off your Daily List. However, if all of your tasks on your Daily List are accomplished then you may of course reward yourself for a job well done but if you are finding you have several hours to watch TV or be on-line then you need to add more tasks to your list.
Step 3- Cross it off your list!
As the day goes on look at your list and see what needs to be done. Cross things off as you go and keep in mind the amount of time you have to get these tasks accomplished. This list isn't only a list, It's a discipline that you are developing in yourself that is helping you be more efficient during the day. It is helping you to organize your thoughts and to keep moving you forward in your life so you may reach your goals and realize your dreams.
It is my experience that if losing weight or doing any self improvement is on your Master List then it should be at the top of your Daily List EVERY DAY and should be done first so you don't make any excuses as to why you couldn't do them. Once you have formed a habit in doing these things and you can trust yourself to do them daily they may then fall off of your Daily List. If however, it's been on your list for weeks or even months take it off of your list entirely. You don't want to be depressed because you can't lose weight, stop drinking etc. After a few months try adding it to the list again and see how it goes. (see hint below)
Step 4- Get off your back!
Guess what, life happens and you probably won't be able to always accomplish what is on your daily list. Don't get frustrated or overwhelmed because this will only cause you to abandon your efforts at getting organized. Make sure any uncompleted tasks from the previous day that weren't completed go to the top of your list for the next day. The laundry and dishes will always be there. If the system you are currently using isn't getting these tasks accomplished, re-evaluate your system. Maybe you should go to the laundromat once a week to get all your laundry done or maybe you should set a rule that you won't go to bed before the dishes are clean. Give yourself a back door and make it a game! Tell yourself if you do tasks 1,2 and 3 you then can have a break to do something you love or enjoy. All work and no play makes Kate a crazy person! Remember this is your list and getting it done should be fun!
Tip: If exercise or any other self improvement task is constantly being neglected and pushed to your next daily list then that particular goal or task might be too overwhelming at this time. At this point I would suggest creating a dream or vision board. Put photos on it that surround this goal or task so you may visualize yourself doing these things. This will help to get your mind on board with your goals.
Step 5- Stick to it!
If you're going to make this a way of life you have to stick to your plan for at least 3 weeks. But maybe 5 tasks is too many? Start off with 3 or if you're a new mom or a new business owner start with 1 task on your list. You'll be amazed how good you feel if you realize that the Master List is your ultimate goal and your Daily List is what is going to get you there! Please remember that your Master List is going to be in a constant state of flux and should be viewed as your most precious asset for if we never accomplish anything then we really can't complain that things aren't changing in our lives.
Step 6- Edit your list
Once you're in the habit of excellent time management maybe certain things can fall off of your Master and Daily List like laundry and walking the dog and instead start putting things on there that are going to help you achieve your long term goals like travel plans or learning how to paint.
Editing your list also allows you to see how far you've come. Going to the gym is now like brushing your teeth or eating a meal. These completed tasks and accomplished goals are self-empowering and they build confidence. If you feel you are insecure or have low self esteem this is the exact place where you should start because you yourself brought you to the place where you are and your list is like a timeline that you can always refer to that displays your progress of self achievement.
Now we have the steps, so how do we make it happen?
-We get involved!
I can make as many lists as I want and they can lay there on the kitchen counter staring at me waiting to be picked up and put into action. Until I actually realize I'm the list maker and I'm the doer of these tasks, my lists are just words on a page and basically a waste of time.
-Pick a time when you are most productive
I get up between 4 and 5 AM to start my day. I know that if I don't get the majority of my chores done in the morning before my boys wake up then they aren't getting done because I'm usually in bed by 9. Determine whether you are a morning or night person and then be determined to get your butt in gear!
-Visualize your day in your mind and see yourself doing these tasks.
Yes, I mean watch yourself in your imagination washing the dishes and doing the laundry or going to class. This takes a huge burden off of your mind if you start in your imagination. It's like a composer creating music or an artist with a blank canvas. At some point they close their eyes to see and feel what they want it to look like. How do you think the computer was invented?
-Lastly, eschew all negative thoughts and thinking.
Imagine a pristine lake that's so clear you can see all the way to the bottom and it's so quiet you can hear every sound in nature. Then all of a sudden a huge noisy dump truck comes along and dumps a bunch of trash into this pristine and peaceful lake leaving poison and refuse. Over time the pristine lake turns into a dangerous waste site.
You are the lake and the negative thinking is the pollution. So every time you catch yourself gossiping, judging or are being negative in any way, stop what you're doing and turn it around. Make yourself say 5 nice things about yourself or someone else. Send love to the person who is on your mind that may have wronged you, for all negative thoughts are poison even if you feel justified in thinking that way.
As a professional organizer and personal assistant I know first hand that there will always be things in our lives pulling at us for our time and attention. Only you can decide what is best for you. Set boundaries with family members, spouses, children and co-workers and don't be afraid to say no! If you find that you are always giving and doing for others then you need to re-write your list. Yes, it's necessary to be selfless and generous at times but it shouldn't be the dominating thing in your life. If you don't take care of your own needs you won't be much use to anyone else when and if the time arises. (Moms, I'm talking to you specifically!) Get enough rest and nutrition so that your body can function efficiently.
On that note, we are always changing and growing. Holding ourselves accountable for who we are and where we are in our accomplishments gives us the power to do anything we want. No one is to blame for our procrastinations and no one can do for us what only we can do for ourselves.
That's pretty empowering, wouldn't you say?
the #1 item that has been at the top of my list for several years was to learn how to cook. I recently took on a client that wants meals made weekly. So I've been called to task and voila, the pic above is of some foods I've been making.
Happy list making, Everyone!
So it's been a few months and this is an update as to what i've been up to. Well let's see. i've doubled my income, i've taken on several personal assistant gigs which puts me at almost 40 hours a week consistently, i'm booked a month in advance and i now have an assistant to help me with really big jobs and she's also taking the jobs that i can't cover. What i'm learning most about myself in this biz is that i'm quick on my feet and i can usually figure anything out in a split second.
(btw, i will never use a capital "I" except for in this instance. i am trying to express my humble point of view so if it's bothersome, i apologize)
My Tuesday/Friday gig, Mr. X, has me take his car to get washed every week. His car was due for a serious detail on the inside so i decided to buy the extra ultra super duper wash which meant i had a little extra time to spare. There is an old man that shines shoes in the lobby and being that he sees me there every week he demanded that i sit in his chair and get my boots shined. It was heavenly to sit back and relax. It was almost like a leg and foot massage. Sort of. i started to day dream about what it would be like to get a massage more than once a year. After about 20 mins or so in his chair he was all finished and the car was too.
Feeling ultra relaxed with a grin from ear to ear i noticed they had missed some spots on the windshield which would've made night driving difficult so I swung around to have them touch it up. i pulled in to the lot and when i looked down at my feet i noticed there were STAINS ALL OVER the driver side blonde carpet colored floor mat. It was from the stupid shoe polish.
Enter panic, ringing in my ears, stomach does a few somersaults and i feel like I'm going to vomit.
I've never made such a stupid mistake.
What was i going to do? The man at the carwash said he would try to clean it and the windshield. 10 minutes goes by. Nope. Car mat still looked like a disaster. i run home and grab this cleaner i use on all stains called Tuff Stuff. i spray it on all over the mat. Nope. It's not budging. i run to a different car wash this time with dawn and a scrub brush. i put a tiny bit on the mat add some water and i scrub. and i scrub. and i scrub. Nope. The stain lays there mocking me and laughing in my face. "that's what you get for not paying attention", it says. hmmmph.
Mr. X calls......do i answer?
"Mr. X! Hi! Yes, i can take care of that for you right after i fix your car mat!"
"huh?" he says.
da da da (brief explanation), he's not angry but maybe slightly perturbed.
SHIT. DOUBLE SHIT. TRIPLE SHIT!!!!! SHIT SHIT SHIT! (which isn't the word i actually used)
Well.... what was left to be done? i stuck it in the trunk to dry. i told Mr. X I'd buy him a new set of floor mats which totaled the amount of my income for the day. Oh well lesson learned.
......ahhh but that's not the end of the story.
A week later, and I hadn't ordered the new mats yet, i asked Mr. X about his floor mats and he acted like he didn't know what i was talking about.
"I didn't notice anything, was it a black streak or something?"
"No" i said "they were yellow stains. You didn't notice it?"
Holy crap. i was making this tiny little thing to be a way bigger deal than it should've been. At the end of our conversation i mentioned that i noticed there was a tear starting to form on the mat and mud was leaking down to the carpet below and i suggested buying some rubber mats.
He said, "ok".
OK???? OK!!! GRIN. DOUBLE GRIN. TRIPLE GRIN!!!!!!
i grabbed his car to take it to the car wash and when i looked down at the mat you could barely see any of the stains. i guess once it had dried it must've faded. That or my fairy godmother came down and sprinkled some magic dust on it.
I'll believe the latter.
the moral of the story is....i lost serious sleep over this and it could've been worse but everyone is still alive and no major damage was done. oh and now i know to not get my shoes shined when driving a car with light colored floor mats. :)
i am turning 37 in a few days and it seems like yesterday that one of my bffs and i were driving down the road in my '74 cherry red vw bug. With the beastie boys blaring in the background, smoking cigarettes (our parents would've killed us if they knew) wearing our ripped jeans and our stringy long hair hanging in our faces (grunge was in back then), and it didn't matter because at that moment we had the world at our finger tips. Our birthdays are one day apart....
"we're 17, we're soooooo old!"
...we said in unison with a little annoyance in our voices. Ha! if we had only known. As we turned left onto a neighborhood street driving away from our high school it didn't seem like we were making history, but looking back, sitting at that stop light, saying those few words didn't seem so monumental at the time but still to this day that memory is as vivid as this computer screen i see before me.
That was 20 years ago. Holy shit. 20. 2 decades.
i'm such a different person now than i was back then. i own my own home and business, i have two boys and i'm a single mom.... this isn't the story i would've written for myself but it's all mine. i own every word and chapter. i wouldn't change a syllable or any of the punctuation either (and there have been a lot of expletives but necessarily so).
i've learned i have every food allergy under the sun and am trying to heal my gut. This proves to be my longest obstacle thus far and i've surrendered it knowing i will be guided in the right direction. However, chocolate still seems to be my greatest weakness.
i've learned i am a leader and not a follower and i think i just realized that right now in this very moment. Thank you, moment!
i've learned that being a parent is the hardest job you'll ever have. i am thankful for the two parents i was given and i'm glad they taught me what i needed to know to stand on these two feet.
i've learned that if you aren't true to who you are you can create negative situations for yourself that might last a lifetime. i've also learned that if you are true to yourself you'll create positive situations that might also last a lifetime.
i've learned that how i see the world is how the world sees me. We're a mirror you and me and i like my reflection to make me feel proud, not pathetic.
i've learned that your thoughts become your reality and if you think of joy and peace then it can only be evident in your life by the mere smile on your face.
and most importantly, i've learned that love is what we're all looking for and i've found it. my spiritual endeavors are now what sustain me. i don't make a move without checking inside to see how it resonates with that feeling of love. i'm still in shock that i was chosen to live this life.
what a propitious lifetime indeed.
This has been a very long process in getting my life organized and going in the direction that I had envisioned.
I used to be unhappy with my life until I realized I'm the only one who could do something about it.
I was always late, always rushing and always forgetting things. People couldn't depend on me and my oldest son made painful comments about how I never followed through with things. After 2 kids, a divorce and attempting to start a business I realized how important it was to not procrastinate any longer.
so i can hear you asking "Kate, what did you do next?"
well I read a few books like The Four Agreements and Parenting with Love and Logic. Then I started hanging out with small business owners. That's right. I realized if I wanted to be a business owner I needed to start associating with those that shared my hunger to make a buck without someone standing over me. I whipped up a website, had some new business cards printed and had faith that the business would show up.
And you know what?
and now we're so busy we are going to have to start hiring people soon!
I started my organizing business because I love the feeling of accomplishment. I can control an environment by taking a mess and making it a functional space. Not to mention the feeling during the process which is total and utter bliss, I get to take other people's lives and transform them right before their very eyes.
At the end of the day I remember I am no longer sitting on the sidelines of my life. I'm the quarterback and my aim is impeccably precise. I will be successful simply because there is no other option.
yep, it's a blog!
I help people tidy their belongings and remedy their to-do lists. In the process, my clients realize the power and freedom of letting go of clutter and I get to learn about myself.